Dating foreign women vs american women
'The first thing to understand is that there are financial motives behind the trend but beyond this there is a lot more going on.
Many Thai women are genuinely attracted to American men and want to be part of American culture.
Howard from San Diego, a Thai Love Lines member who now lives in Chiang Mai with his Thai girlfriend: 'Sure, some relationships don't work out, I often think my own relationship is too good to be true but overall, it's a good deal for us guys and the Thai women.
I meet many wonderful couples who have been together for decades here, I don't see this very much at home anymore.' Commentators have attributed the problems to a conflict of reasons for the marriage, and partially due to cultural differences.
In addition to pressure being placed on marriages because of problems raised by familial financial obligations, many Thai women do not always take kindly to being regarded as having few rights in their marriage.
For many Thai women, on the other hand, the arrangement is more of a financial one. These Thai women, often with a history of being involved in Thailand's infamous sex industry, marry men such as American retirees much older than they would normally dream of marrying for economic reasons and to escape their fate.
Says Nui Davis, who as a child saw Thai girls who had found foreign husbands visiting her village dressed in fine clothes and handing out candies to the kids: 'For me, they were like a princess,' she said.
'And I kept those pictures in my mind, and I made a wish that one day I would like to be one of those ladies.' Now she is - in theory.
More and More American men are retiring to Thailand with a Thai wife.
This trend has not only continued but exploded in recent years driven on by the economic downturn in the United States.In Thai culture, and that of most Asian countries, the husband and wife are financially responsible for the bride's parents and grandparents, and also other members of the family that require financial help.