Average time spent dating before getting engaged
Another reason of dating may be to silence peer pressure from friends of the same age; or to live out fantasies and dreams gleaned from countless imaginations gained by reading Mills and Boon books, watching the latest romantic comedies that Hollywood offers, or by ascribing to the ‘Cinderella/Prince Charming’ themes where they “live happily ever after”. You also have to know WHY you are dating THIS person that you are now contemplating being engaged to.
As I’ve said before, the most successful reason for dating is to prepare you to meet your lifelong husband/wife with the intention of raising the next generation of children, knowing that this person will work with you as a team member, will impart the best influence on any future children, and will have the same goals in mind as you regarding a lifelong, monogamous relationship.
This will cloud your judgements and is not a good basis for a lifelong relationship.
My sister-in-law refused to make out even once with her now husband, but preferred to talk, to get to know his thoughts, to present questions and answers; and to enjoy his company both in groups and in individual time undertaking hobbies of mutual interests e.g.
If you want just the endorphins, exercising regularly will do the same trick.Dating, used in the right way, is always a method of spending enough time with a person you are physically or emotionally attracted to, with the intention of ending in a lifelong, committed relationship culminated in a public expression of monogamy known traditionally as ‘marriage’.Unfortunately, dating has been distorted in its intentions, and hence has come to be a minefield for many in our society.You need to understand the implications for engagements in the society that you are living in.
For cross-cultural dating, this is even more important.
Another answerer of this topic suggested one year of dating. I would say that you need to have the right motivations for dating, have spent enough time to really understand your partner, and to prepare yourself knowing that engagement leads to a lifelong, monogamous partnership that has greater effects than just your feelings at the time.